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With the onslaught of celebrity coverage surrounding Mel Gibson's recorded telephone rants, many divorce clients have asked whether it is legal to record their spouse or ex-spouse's telephone conversations.  The answer depends on several different factors and often varies on a case by case basis.

The general rule is, no, unless you obtain express consent.  Florida wiretapping laws are complex and can carry criminal or civil punishments if violated.  In situations where your spouse would have a reasonable expectation of privacy, it is not proper to record your spouse's telephone conversations without permission.  I typically recommend always obtaining permission from your spouse or ex-spouse before recording any telephone call or communication.

However, there are several exceptions to this general rule, that would require an in-depth analysis of the facts and circumstances of your family law case. 

Contact your expert Tampa family law attorney to discuss whether these exceptions apply to you and your case.

It is never too early to start thinking about where your children will spend their holidays.  Most parents wait until November to start dialoguing with their former spouse about scheduling their holidays for their children.  If they do not have a set schedule in place, they find themselves calling their family law attorney after Halloween to settle their disputes.  Unfortunately, the judges have dockets that are already crowded.  So, last minutes hearings are rarely granted and usually quite expensive to litigate.

I recommend that clients start around the beginning of the school year to set out their requests for a holiday schedule.  That way, if there is going to be a disagreement, it can set sorted out without a last minute rush to the courthouse that quite possibly might not get resolved in time.

If you find that you and your spouse are unable to work something out, going to a mediator may be helpful.  Many jurisdictions have mediation services available for divorce cases at the courthouse for a relatively low cost.

Additionally, it may be helpful to know that many jurisdictions have a holiday guideline schedule that may be found on the courthouse website.  Ask your expert Tampa family law attorney for ideas as to how to get this problem served early in the year and avoid unnecessary expense.

In a Florida divorce or a Florida paternity case, the law sets out a specific schedule that determines how much child support each party is responsible for based on the income of both parents and the number of children in the family.  However, we have previously discussed that Florida family law provides for certain exceptions from these guidelines, such as the demonstrated need for one party to financially support an elderly parent or certain extraordinary medical or educational expenses.

Another exception is seasonal variations in one or both parents' income.  What does this mean and how would a court interpret this provision?  One example might be a teacher who gets paid his salary during the school year when he's in class teaching but not over the summer.  Another example could be a salesman who gets paid mostly on commission and sees larger paychecks around the holiday shopping season. These are only two circumstances for which the court could deviate from the established guidelines - there are many others.

Bottom line:  If you find yourself having trouble meeting your child support obligations due to changes in your income from month-to-month, consult with the best Tampa family law attorney to make sure you receive the reasonable accommodation as provided by law.

Florida family law is very clear on how much each party will be responsible for in child support based on both parents' income and the number of children.  However, we have recently discussed that the court can deviate from the normal payment schedule for certain unusual circumstances like the care of an elderly parent.

What if the children are enrolled in private schools which can cost thousands of dollars per school year these days?  Are these expenses meant to be shared using the normal child support schedule laid out in the law?  Expert Florida divorce lawyers know that the answer is, "Not necessarily."

While the guidelines for payment are calculated using a clearly defined formula, the law states that the court can adjust one or both parents' share for a number of factors, one of which is extraordinary "medical, psychological, educational, or dental expenses".  Private school tuition fits under this exception and should be handled outside the normal guidelines.

Bottom line:  Speak with the best Tampa family law attorney you can find if your children are subject to expensive private school tuition costs and you are involved in a divorce or paternity case.

In a Florida divorce or paternity proceeding, the best Tampa family law attorneys often use guardians ad litem for the benefit of the children.  A guardian ad litem should not act as an attorney or advocate for the child, but rather as next friend of the child in seeking the child's best interests.  Once appointed, this person has fairly wide-ranging powers, many of which require the assistance of a lawyer.  For example, the guardian ad litem has investigatory powers that allow the interview of the child, witnesses, or any other person having information concerning the welfare of the child.  The guardian ad litem may also assist in seeking impartial expert examinations as necessary or, with the assistance of counsel, may ask the court to compel examination of the child or the parents by doctors or mental health professionals.   

A guardian ad litem is entitled to attend any court proceedings that affect the child and also must submit a written report containing recommendations to the court within 10 days of any stipulation or agreement.  The guardian is able to make oral or written recommendations directly to the court.

While these are some of the powers and duties specifically laid out in Florida family law, the law is also clear that this list of powers is not meant to be exhaustive. 

Bottom line:  The best St. Petersburg child custody lawyer will tell you that the purpose of a guardian ad litem is to act in the best interests of a child and that the law provides fairly extensive authority to assist in the pursuit of this goal.

The court system uses guardians ad litem to assist in cases involving children.  In order to be appointed by the court to perform this task, you must meet one of three qualifications.  You must be officially certified by the Florida Guardian Ad Litem Program, certified by a not-for-profit legal aid organization or be an attorney who is a member in good standing of The Florida Bar.

There are a number of specific criteria within the Florida Guardian Ad Litem Program and within any not-for-profit legal aid organization which we will discuss in a later blogpost.  All of the requirements are geared toward obtaining guardians ad litem who will dedicate their time to diligently representing the best interests of the children they are appointed to represent.

If you have questions about these qualifications, contact an expert Tampa family law attorney.

Bottom line:  A guardian ad litem can be appointed to represent a child in a child custody dispute.

In determining the amount of child support to be paid in a Florida divorce case, courts have established a precise numerical formula for calculating those payments.  The Florida child support guidelines are based on factors such as the children's health care expenses and the number of days the child stays overnight at each parent's house.  Ultimately, Florida family law courts are confined to this formula to establish payments. 

However, a parent can request that the court deviate from this formula as detailed by the Florida Child Support Guideline Statute.  One of these reasons is if the child earns an independent income.

For example, a child may possibly hold a job as a hostess or a bus boy at a local restaurant.  If this child is earning enough income to purchase his or her own clothes, or pay for his or her own car insurance or medical expenses, child support payments may be lower than the formula establishes.

A board certified Tampa family law attorney can guide you through court proceedings in this scenario.  While a modification or deviation from the formula is not guaranteed, the court will take your situation into consideration when calculating payments.

In every family law case involving parenting, there will be a timesharing plan ordered by the court.  That plan will include a time schedule for when each parent will be with the children.  What do you do if you find out that the other parent may be planning to take the children out of state, in violation of the plan?

The Florida statutes provide a way that you can ask for help before the other parent is already gone for parts unknown with your children.  They set up a procedure where you can present "substantial competent evidence" to the court that there is a risk of the other parent violating the court order by removing the child from the state.

If the court agrees that the risk exists, an order can be entered that the other parent may not remove the child without a notarized written permission statement from you.  In addition, the court can require the posting of a money bond which will be forfeited if the child is removed.  The court can also require the surrender of the child's passport.  Your expert Florida custody lawyer can help you through the process.

Bottom line:  Talk to your Florida divorce attorney about the steps you can take to ease the worry of your children being taken out of state without you knowing about it.

A dispute over child custody in a Florida divorce or paternity case can often become very emotional and divisive.  The more animosity there is, the more it hurts the children involved.  The Florida family law system has a way to try to ease some of the tension that is placed on the children.

In a Florida divorce where there is a request for creation or modification of a parenting plan, the court may appoint a guardian ad litem to act as "next friend of the children, investigator or evaluator, not as attorney or advocate."  This is typically done when a judge feels that it would be appropriate to hear what the child has to say about the proposed parenting plans, but wants to keep the child from feeling alone in the process.

If there are allegations of abuse, abandonment or neglect, the court has no alternative.  It must appoint a guardian ad litem.

The guardian ad litem will typically meet with the children and make them feel more at ease with the idea that their parents are divorcing.  The guardian ad litem will assure them that the breakup of the marriage is not because of anything that they have done.  Then the children will be asked what they would like to see the parenting plan look like.  Finally, the guardian ad litem will inform the court of the thoughts of the children.

Bottom line:  Your expert Tampa family law attorney can assist you in seeking a guardian ad litem to assist your children.

To be a parenting coordinator, a person must either be licensed as a Florida mental health professional, psychiatrist or lawyer or be certified as a family law mediator with a master’s degree in a mental health field.  Expert Tampa family law attorneys often refer client s to parent coordinators for assistance in creating a timesharing plan because of the education and experience in dealing with children that comes with these qualifications.

The parent coordinator will meet with the parents both together and individually to discuss the needs of the children.  In some cases, the parent coordinator will contact teachers or others who have information regarding the children or, in certain circumstances, speak with the children themselves.

The primary goal of the parent coordinator will be to reach an agreement between the parents on all aspects of their future timesharing arrangement.  Not only will the parents decide which days the children will spend at each home, but also agree upon rules for telephone contact, exceptions to the usual schedule, responsibility for transporting the children, systems for selection of doctors, schools, extracurricular activities and all other choices you will make as your children mature.

Parent coordinators are fairly new to the divorce process in Florida custody cases, but have proven to be quite valuable in helping to reduce the bickering and reach agreements that divorcing parents can accept.

Bottom line:  Ask your expert Florida divorce lawyer if a parent coordinator could be helpful in your situation.

When there are minor children involved in your Florida divorce, you are required to take a parenting course before you can obtain a court ordered Final Judgment of Dissolution of Marriage.

Back in 1994, the Florida legislature decided that far too many parents were going through the entire divorce process without realizing some of the harm that they were doing to their children.  Judges were hearing many stories of one parent badmouthing the other parent in the presence of their children and otherwise doing and saying things which were unhealthy for the children to see and hear.

A parenting course lasts four hours and can be taken either separately or together by the divorcing parents.  The Florida family law rules allow that it may be taken in person or online, but judges in some parts of the state require that it be in person. 

For many people, the course serves as a reminder of things that you already know.  It deals with treating the other parent with respect in the presence of the children, keeping good communication lines open, the effect of domestic violence on children, being mindful of the stress that children are under during the separation process and other aspects of the family dynamic.  For some people, it is a wakeup call to start being the better parent that they never knew how to be.

Your expert Tampa family law attorney will have a list of the parenting courses near you.

Bottom line:  Early in the divorce process, it is a good idea to comply with the requirement that you attend a parenting course.  You just might learn something that will help you to be a better parent during this difficult time.

Many people are in a hurry to get a divorce in Florida.  The reasons vary.  Some people are anxious to marry someone else.  Some want to stop sharing their large incomes with their lower income spouses.  Some just want out of the relationship.  For whatever the reason, many are hopeful of getting the speediest divorce possible.

In Florida, as in all states, divorces can last for many months and sometimes even years.  There are times, however, when each person in the marriage wishes to get on with things and an agreement on all issues is not a long, drawn out process.  When that occurs, it is possible to obtain a quick Florida divorce.

Once you and your spouse have decided that you want to get things over with and move on with your lives, you can contact your expert Tampa family law attorney and find out just how quickly the process can be completed.

Florida family law allows that, once you have reached an agreement on all issues, you can get a dissolution of marriage in as few as 20 days from the filing of the petition for dissolution of marriage.  You can even get it done more quickly if you can show the court that an injustice would occur by waiting the required 20 days.

Bottom line:  If you are anxious to finalize your Florida divorce, you can accomplish this in as few as  20 days from the filing the petition for dissolution of marriage once you and your spouse have resolved all of your differences regarding parenting issues, distribution of property, spousal support and reimbursement of attorney's fees.

At the end of almost every divorce consultation, a Florida family law attorney is posed with the same question. How much is my divorce going to cost?   While this question appears to be straightforward, the unknown factors of divorce make it almost impossible to answer.   Your Florida divorce attorney should, however, be able to analyze the issues of each particular case and address the related expenses.

In the State of Florida, there are two primary types of divorce cases, the first of which is an uncontested divorce.   In an uncontested divorce, the parties have been able to work through all issues even before filing the divorce petition.   In this scenario, all that remains is for the parties to complete and file the required pleadings.   Due to the limited nature of work involved, the divorce attorney’s role is to assist the client rather than advocate a legal position.   Thus, the attorney’s role in an uncontested divorce is typically limited to the preparation of the pleadings, drafting the applicable marital settlement agreement and parenting plan, and scheduling and attending an uncontested final hearing in order to obtain the final judgment of divorce.   Because the attorney’s role is limited the expense a party faces is reduced.

The second type of divorce is referred to as a contested case.   A contested divorce means the parties are unable to agree or settle all of the issues of their divorce and need the assistance of an attorney to help bring about a final resolution.   This final resolution can come in the form of a settlement during the course of the divorce or at a trial.   The expenses involved in a contested case derive from the issues the parties are facing, and the time involved in resolving those issues.

Examples of contested, and sometimes expensive, issues include timesharing plans with minor children, support provisions, including child support and alimony, the division of assets, including homes and marital businesses, and a spouse’s request for an attorney fees contribution.   All of the above case issues can require extensive work not only by an attorney but also an expert who assists the client and attorney in advancing their particular position.   With the complexity of each case issue and with each additional contested issue, the cost of the divorce grows.

It is important for each client to discuss and address all possible case issues with their Florida divorce attorney during the initial consult.   At that time, the client can be fully aware of what issues they may face and thus can have a better understanding of what expenses lie ahead.   One constant will remain: the sooner the parties can settle, the less expensive the divorce will be.

It is often difficult for parents to agree on a timesharing schedule for the children in a Florida divorce.   After all, it is difficult to reach agreement on many things as you dissolve your relationship.   When you consider that nothing is more important to a parent than the welfare of the children, the pressure surrounding the negotiation process becomes even greater.

To be a parenting coordinator, a person must either be licensed as a Florida mental health professional, psychiatrist or lawyer or be certified as a family law mediator with a master’s degree in a mental health field.   Expert St. Petersburg divorce lawyers often refer clients to parent coordinators for assistance in creating a timesharing plan because of the education and experience in dealing with children that comes with these qualifications.

The parent coordinator will meet with the parents both together and individually to discuss the needs of the children.   In some cases, the parent coordinator will contact teachers or others who have information regarding the children or, in certain circumstances, speak with the children themselves.

The primary goal of the parent coordinator will be to reach an agreement between the parents on all aspects of their future timesharing arrangement.   Not only will the parents decide which days the children will spend at each home, but also agree upon rules for telephone contact, exceptions to the usual schedule, responsibility for transporting the children, systems for selection of doctors, schools, extracurricular activities and all other choices you will make as your children mature.

Parent coordinators are fairly new to the divorce process in Florida, but have proven to be quite valuable in helping to reduce the bickering and reach agreements that divorcing parents can accept.

Bottom line:   Ask your expert Florida divorce lawyer if a parent coordinator could be helpful in your situation.

For many years, the only way to get your marriage dissolved was to have both spouses hire expert Florida divorce lawyers and battle it out tooth and nail.  In these more modern times, things have gotten a lot more creative and a lot more helpful to those going through the agonizing breakup of a relationship.  There are several FLORIDA DIVORCE ALTERNATIVES.

An easy, fast and cheap divorce comes from the notion of having a FLORIDA UNCONTESTED DIVORCE.  You don’t even need to involve two lawyers.  One of you can go to a lawyers office and get advice, then work out the practical details with your spouse and then have the lawyer put it all into “legalese” and make sure that the paperwork is all processed correctly.

FLORIDA COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE is another option.  In collaborative divorce, you both agree in the beginning that you will not go to trial, but will work it all out amicably.  You guarantee that this will occur by agreeing to fire the lawyers involved in your negotiations if they are unsuccessful in bringing you to an agreement.

The most common way of ending the uncomfortable divorce process these days is to engage in a FLORIDA MEDIATION.  This is where the parties and their lawyers meet with a third and independent Florida divorce lawyer who pushes both sides toward settlement of their differences.

Another Florida divorce alternative is the FLORIDA PRO SE divorce.  These means that the parties represent themselves and do not hire lawyers.  We often meet with a spouse who is handling the divorce without a lawyer, but wishes to get advice on the law, strategy and procedure before reaching a final agreement with the other spouse.  After all, it is very difficult for someone inexperienced in the law of divorce to competently handle all of the issues without some help.

Bottom line:  There are many FLORIDA DIVORCE ALTERNATIVES.  Check with a Florida divorce lawyer to see which option is best suited to your situation.

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